Sibling Rivalry – the age-old fear of expecting parents with one child. What should some parents consider when having a second child or more? Here are some tips on how to prepare and potential ways on avoiding future sibling rivalry.
The love of the first child amounts to astronomical proportions, especially for those who did not expect to have children. It is that one child who fills one's day. Parents wonder what their child's interests will be, and if that child would be alone.
There are those of many couples, who view having one child as enough. Sometimes it has to do with those who have hectic work schedules, stumbling financial stability, or not enough space for two children or more. But for others, the question does plague the mind. Wanting a sibling for the one child. Excitement fuels, and conversations whisper in the bedroom – "another baby?" But the question remains – how will the first child take to the second child?
Experimentation
If the first-born is old enough, sit down and discuss the possibility – should a second child be on the horizon, how would the first-born feel about being a brother or sister? But if the first-born is just three or four years old, then experimentation may take some form of importance in viewing how the child would interact with the other.
- Some have suggesting role playing. Role playing can play an important view on how the first-born would go along treating a new baby. Taking a doll and sitting the young one down, pretend that doll is the actual baby.
- Bring in another baby for the day. Should a close family member have a baby, ask them to bring the baby over. Spend some time with the first-born and the baby. Interact with the pair. Begin with ways to interact with the baby. What is the right and wrong way of treating a sibling? Have the youngest warm up to the idea.
- Consider a pet. Many second-time parents view buying a dog or some cuddly friendly pet as a way to veer the child's attention onto the pet.
Independence and favorites
It is in some parents' nature, including that of many first-time parents to favor a child. Or more so to wrangle the kids and categorize them. This may cause more harm than one thinks. When exploring the option of another child or a third child. Take into view, how it is you look at the kids or kid. It is wise to note that holding one higher than the rest, can create an unhealthy trait of animosity. Allow each child to explore their own nature, their own selves. Do not hold one or more higher. Independence is key. Favoritism is a dangerous game.
Article sources
http://www.nytimes.com/1989/08/31/garden/parent-child.html
http://www.med.umich.edu/yourchild/topics/sibriv.htm
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/childrens-health/in-depth/new-sibling/art-20044270